If your boyfriend exhibits these behaviours, you
need to do the needful and run for your life
before it is too late.
1. He abuses you emotionally or verbally: He
humiliates you, puts you down and makes fun of
you in front of other people. He is constantly
threatening, bullying, and criticizing you without
caring how it makes you feel. He makes you feel
like you need permission to make decisions or
go out and the list goes on. This can destroy
your self-esteem, causing you to be depressed
and also give up on yourself. No one should
make you feel like you’re worth nothing. The
earlier you realize you deserve better and gather
the courage to leave the relationship, the better
for you.
2. He physically abuses you: Many women have
lost their lives, others have been deformed and
many others are still living with the scars from
an abusive relationship. Breaking may be more
complicated than it seems but, for your sake, it’s
the best thing you can do for yourself. You
shouldn’t be anybody’s punching bag. You
deserve better. It’s time to stop rationalizing his
behavior as “normal” and move on.
3. He isolates you from your friends and family:
If he is trying to isolate you from your loved
ones, you should be careful. Any man who tries
to isolate you from the people who truly love and
care about you should not be trusted. It’s either
he knows that your friends and family will try to
make you see good reasons why you should not
be with him or point out those dangerous flaws
of his and he doesn’t want that. So, he tries to
keep you far away from them. You should not
have to sever relationships with your loved ones
because of your partner. Your boyfriend must
recognize that you are a person outside of the
relationship.
4. Impossibly high standards and unrealistic
expectations: Some boyfriends can be so
delusional. They have the image of what they
want their partner to be in their head and they
expect you to be that way. They try to change
you into something you’re not. You shouldn’t
have to deal with someone who doesn’t allow
you the luxury of being yourself. If you have to
constantly keep pretending to be who you’re not
and doing things you’re not comfortable with
just to please your boyfriend then maybe, you
shouldn’t be with him because when you get
tired of pretending and start being you, there will
be trouble.
5. Extreme possessive, obsessive behavior:
When obsession is confused for love,
relationships can become dangerous. At the
beginning of the relationships, it’s natural for you
to be the sole focus of your partner’s thoughts.
You want to spend time together and are always
thinking of each other when you’re not. It’s okay
for him to be interested in your day-to-day
activities but when it seems a little much, it may
be cause for concern. If he becomes over-
committed to knowing your whereabouts, who
were you with, what time you went out, makes
you feel guilty about going out, checks up on
you excessively, he may be exhibiting overly-
possessive behaviors and you may be putting
yourself in a dangerous situation.
6. Disrespect: Be with someone who shows you
that necessary degree of respect. If you realize
that your boyfriend doesn’t respect you at all, it’s
time to step back and ask yourself whether or
not you should remain in a relationship where
you’re not shown any respect. Relationships
aren’t always easy, and you and your partner
won’t always get along but, should however,
always respect each other.
7. He can never apologise: If you’re boyfriend
never apologises when he’s wrong, you need to
be concerned. This may not seem like a big deal
but goes to show that he thinks he’s superior in
the relationship. If you’re wrong, you should be
able to say you’re sorry, what’s the big deal.
Sometimes, it’s hard to admit our mistakes and
say sorry. But, a man who never apologises or
sees any reason why he should apologise to a
woman should be ‘feared’.
It’s time to stop rationalizing certain behavior as
“normal”. Learn how to recognize when its’ time
to end the relationship and move on with your
life before it’s too late.
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